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Dear You,

First, I want to thank you for your grace and gusto, for your being and your sharing, for your wisdom and your natural grace, for being the exact you that you came here to be for me and for all of us, including you.

Here’s the one thing you need to know…

It is not our job to say the right thing or do the right thing, or be appropriate, or nice or attentive. It’s not our job to make you feel ok, happy, safe, loved, wanted, validated, enough.

Our job is to be what we are.

Just as it’s your job to be what you are.

What we are may sometimes say the opposite to what you expect, not return a phone call or a text, walk away when you are wanting a hug, look away when you want eye contact, listen to our own thoughts instead of yours.

Your job is to not use us to get love, approval, attention, appreciation or acknowledgement. Your job is to practice letting go of your expectations on how we should be, and to free us from the “Making You Happy” job.

When you look to us to do the right thing so you can be ok, you gather all your power and hand it to us.

But we don’t want it.

We never asked you for this power, so don’t act like we are to blame when we don’t live up to your expectations.  And don’t judge us for not being what you want. We don’t want to be responsible for your happiness, security, and well-being. We’re too busy surfing our own expansion and contraction to take on yours as well. Impossible to do anyhow -we can’t surf two waters on two surf boards.

Do you know why you do this? Do you know why you keep trying to give us the keys to your happiness? You do this to avoid being accountable and taking responsibility for the state of your heart and the life you have created for yourself. You do this to avoid growing yourself up.

We are your mirrors, not your saviors.
We are your messengers, not your white-horse riding knight.

The good news is that what you want us to be is actually your soul telling YOU who to be for you (and for us). When you say, in your mind or out aloud, “I need you to…”, or, “I want you to…”, or, “You should…” that is your own soul speaking for your own ears to hear. Your soul is using us as a mirror to reflect back what it wants you to live. It uses us so you can hear yourself. You want me to love you? You love you, first. You need me to be attentive, you be attentive to you, and even to me -I may be needing your attention in that moment.

Do you see how firing us from the “make me happy” job would be you doing that job instead? After all, you actually know what makes you happy and gives you peace of mind. Do you see how being 100% accountable for the state of your heart keeps the power in your own hands?

So! Your job this year is to channel your innate, divinely inspired power into fun and creative ways that keeps your happiness-o-meter high. Take the guitar lessons you have been wanting to take, volunteer at a local people or animal shelter, learn about the stock market, start a Meet Up group, plan a trip to the place on your bucket list, start learning another language…

For our sake, please, commit this year to being your own best lover, mother, father, sister, brother, partner, friend. Hold your own hand (you have two) and tell you that you are ok, that you are safe. Look into your own eyes and tell you that you are loved and wanted. Be still in your own heart and know that Life is a gift to be shared, not a burden to be handed over.

Make yourself happy so we can surf the waves of life together.

Happy and free.

Loving you into 2017 with a whole heart,

All of us

Happiness is actually an art of living, which is in us

To identify and shift limiting beliefs, consider a one-on-one session. Sessions can be in-person if you are local to New Jersey, USA, or via Skype if you are elsewhere. You may also wish to consider learning a natural healing art such as Reiki as a method of self-care. In the second level (degree) of Reiki, breakthrough limiting beliefs to clear the environment for creation and manifestation.
Email Andrea at info@andreagrace.com, or call: 908-271-6670 x 1. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.

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banner_2016-05Sydney 2002
I came back into my brother’s house one drizzly afternoon to find one of my black boots chewed to pieces. This wasn’t just any boot. This was one of a pair of traipsed-all-over-New-York-city-over-several-weekends-to-find-them kind of a boot. My bother’s dog, Ruby, a portly German Shorthaired Pointer my brother and his not-yet-wife had adopted after she had become too old for breeding, had used my precious black boot as a chew toy. It was the right one.

The thing that sticks with me about this memory is not that Ruby destroyed my prized footwear but that nothing happened. When I say, “nothing happened”, what I mean is nothing emotional happened. I didn’t react. There was no flash of anger, no loud outburst, no tears of rage, no sadness, no regret, no blame. Nothing. If I had told the story to a sympathetic friend especially drawing out for dramatic effect how long it took me to find this perfect pair of boots, my friend would understandably say, “That’s terrible! I’d be so mad!” But as it happened, it wasn’t terrible. I wasn’t mad.
I was so surprised at my lack of caring that I went looking for the upset!
In time, images started playing in my head of how people react in a situation like this. I saw in my mind a man yelling, “Bad dog!” I saw a dog cowering. I saw hitting. So in the end, that’s what I did. I faked the anger following a direction on how people are supposed to react when things like this happen. So I popped poor Ruby on the behind with the left boot and shouted sternly, “Bad dog!” (sorry, Ruby! RIP). It did not feel juicy and satisfying like raging can feel. It felt hollow. Surreal. Like I was a bad actor in a B-grade movie.

Nepal 2011
By the time I had finished my tea and cake I began to understand what people mean when they describe their headaches as “pounding” or “blinding”. It was the end of the one-day climb to Ama Dablam base camp where we had reached our highest altitude of 4,800 meters and I was succumbing to altitude sickness. I felt like I had a helicopter in my head. VROOM VROOM VROOM it pulsed.

It was my own fault. Cyril, our fitness trainer, had told us to bring enough water for the day. I didn’t. Instead of the recommended three bottles, I took just two. I drank my last drop out of my camel pack about half way down. Back at the inn an hour later than planned, the helicopter was relentlessly spinning on and I noticed I could not hear the shower running and it was hard for me to see. I stumbled into my pyjamas and somehow got myself into bed and closed my eyes waiting for the helicopter in my head to stop moving. I could hear my fellow trekkers coming to my aid. Once closed, I could not open my eyes. I was tested for oxygen count and I was propped up to take what I think now was an aspirin. At one point, Valerie, my roommate, climbed into the narrow bed with me and cradled me like a child. To my shock, guffawing sobs burst out of my body. Edmond, founder of the Legacy Odyssey Trek* of which I was a part, filled the room with sweet chakra music from his ipad.

What sticks with me with this memory is that while the body was shaking and sobbing and panicked chatter bubbled out, it was not me. I was there, but I was inside. I was in what I can only describe as the inky blackness. I was very awake. Very aware. Very still. Very calm. There was peace. The body was doing its thing, crying and babbling and it had nothing to do with me. I was floating inside completely fine wondering matter-of-factly if this was the end of the Andrea story. At one point I realized I didn’t need to stay in the inky blackness of the body and I left. I could still hear Valerie talking to me and then when Valerie went to have dinner, Cyril sat with me repeating over and over things like, “It’s ok. You’re ok. You are not the only one. Other people have experienced this too. It will be over soon. Don’t worry. Everything is ok.” I could hear the music until eventually it stopped and I could hear my own sobs until they stopped too. It wasn’t me and it was all me.

The Soul is Timeless
I’m sharing this story because I can not un-know that what I am is not my body and not my emotions either. What I am is still, spacious, awake and at peace. The body can wail and cry and that is not me. What is me is at peace. Lying there on a bed in an inn high in the Himalayas in Nepal was peace because what I was didn’t care about the body living or dying. It didn’t have a story about what came before, or what was to come next. It just was. It just is.

Emotional Tendencies
So here’s what I have noticed. I notice that we, as a modern culture, are addicted to how we feel. We are addicted to the highs and lows of the story of our lives. We are used to feeling a certain way when certain things happen. If you are rude to me, I’ll be angry. If you die, I’ll be sad. If you leave me before I’m ready,  I’ll be mad and sad. If you flirt with someone else, I’ll be jealous. If you fire me, I’ll feel shame followed by fear. All these reactions are understandable and widely accepted according to today’s cultural emotional maturity. If your partner leaves you, and you share your broken heart with your friends, they will agree with your feelings and may even fan the flames.

We innocently use emotions to make real our idea of reality.

What if we have it backwards?
If your partner leaves and you react with anger, the anger you feel serves to make real the belief that your lover shouldn’t have left you. We innocently use emotions to make real our idea of reality. For you to feel anger, a whisper of a thought has been believed, and that is; “She should not have left me”, or “He should stay and work this out.” To your personality’s rationale, the feeling of anger, frustration, sadness etc is proof that you are right; “I am so angry! I’m angry because of you!”

Emotions as Messengers NOT as Warriors
Your emotions are NOT, as you have been habitually believing, troops arriving to defend your preferences, opinions and judgements about life, nor for you to use as a force to go to war with Life. Your emotions are messengers pounding your chest, head and belly to get your attention crying out;

“Watch out! Wake up!
Don’t believe the nightmare!
You are, in this moment, in danger of preferring your untrue thoughts over reality.
You are, in this moment, insane.”

From the perspective of the timeless, spacious, sleepless soul, it loves you too much to care whether the body lives or dies, or whether your favorite boot is worn on your foot or chewed up by your bother’s dog, or whether your lover leaves or stays. To the soul, each apparent loss is just energy moving. Without the leaves dropping from the branch of the tree each Autumn, how can there be room for new growth in the Spring? Loss is never loss. It is only ever an opening into something else.

Emotions such as guilt and frustration are also the whisper that remind you when you have not been listening to your inner wisdom, values or truth, or have been acting discordantly to what is your soul’s divine purpose here on earth. Notice how this has nothing to do with anyone else. I have noticed that people, in their innocence, tend to project their unhappiness onto the people around them -especially the people whom they love the most, making them wrong. My invitation is to stop that. Now. Take responsibility for how you feel. Your emotions are your personal energetic experience. What do you get out of dragging your loved one into your chaos?

It is not their job to make you happy, it is yours.

Imagine that instead of using your emotions to make real your story about Life, you use them like an alarm that’s reminding you to wake up to an opportunity that has arrived in your life -an opportunity to open your heart, to release attachments, to shift perception, to love deeply and unconditionally, to relax and allow Life to be as it is without your personality arguing about it, to deepen your relationship with the Divine Wisdom that has all this working in perfect order. Give yourself permission to not react as you are “supposed” to but rather melt into the Truth that everything is as it should be and that you are ok actually.
Everything is ok actually.
The ground still holds you.
Your heart beats.
The body breathes whether you ask it to or not.
Without the stressful emotion, Life and its characters can do its thing and you are at peace.
With the peace, clarity naturally emerges out of the fog of the chaos.
You are free.

 

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* Edmond Antoine, founder of Altruistic Odyssey, is fundraising for many great causes in Nepal. Please consider donating. He especially needs help financing the rebuilding of a their kitchen in Deboche Gompa Convent. Click on the link to donate.

 


To identify and shift limiting beliefs, consider a one-on-one session. Sessions can be in-person if you are local to New Jersey, or via Skype if you are elsewhere. You may also wish to consider learning a natural healing art such as Reiki as a method of self-care. In the second level (degree) of Reiki, breakthrough limiting beliefs to clear the environment for creation and manifestation.
Email Andrea at info@andreagrace.com, or call: 908-271-6670 x 1. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.

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Did you know that your decisions are made 7 seconds before you become aware of them? That is, your unconscious mind makes a decision that your brain reacts to and 7 seconds later “you” make a conscious decision. Read more.

What else is happening at the unconscious level before it hits the conscious one?

For the first time in 30 years I have found myself once more on the other end of a nebulizer. It started after I began working in earnest on my Journey Through the Chakras project, a self-guided workshop through the human energetic anatomy to help nurture a balanced, empowered, spiritually aware life.

I’d been been starting this project for about a year. Not getting far. Little bursts without much continuity despite the recent attempts my friend Maria had made to give me deadlines at my request. So when our impressively creative and motivated friends Scott & Julie came to visit NJ from Vancouver in July and Julie asked me about my meditations and how was I doing recording them, I responded with red-wine infused enthusiasm, “You know what I would love? I would love to just spend two weeks with you guys and just produce.” To which, with equal enthusiasm, Julie responded, “When?!”

I arrived in Vancouver Friday, August 14th.

On the first days of writing, Monday and Tuesday, I completed the outline and started writing the section on the root chakra. That evening, my breathing was a little labored. This was strange and funny. Strange, because I had not had asthma in a very, very long time. Funny, because I was writing about the root chakra which governs physical health and vitality.

Have you ever heard of the Global Consciousness Project? I first became aware of it when I watched the 2010 documentary, Wake Up. The project measures how human consciousness interacts with its environment, specifically the effects global events have on human “hive” consciousness. What was amazing about this was that the EGG network (the system used to gather the data), showed that human consciousness was aware of the September 11 attacks up to four hours before the first plane hit the first tower.

Let me repeat:
The data showed that human global consciousness was aware something big was happening around 4 hours before it actually happened.

So! I didn’t realize it at the time, but it seemed like my body was predicting my next “decision”…

Writing about my past brought asthma back into my world.

On Wednesday, happily writing alongside Julie & Scott as they brainstormed story ideas for Kate & Mim-Mim, I  bounced back to write the Journey Through the Chakras introduction. In it, I share a time when I was camping and had an asthma attack and no medication to help me. After the initial panic, I was able to stop the symptoms using visualization and Reiki. On Thursday, I went further into my history remembering what happened the last time I had an attack and didn’t have medicine at hand, which was when I was 13 and at a school sports event -not having medicine had landed me in hospital. Friday, the asthma symptoms were worse and I had a raspy throat and a sharp cough, by Saturday, it felt like someone had a fist in my chest, asthma had squarely announced it wasn’t leaving and the sore throat meant my lymph nodes hurt and I found myself sucking on the slightly salty nebulizer air.

Your physical expression is a reflection of your environment.
~Bruce Lipton

The asthma symptoms started before I started writing, but there was already a subconscious intention to write about my asthma-soaked past. It was in my outline. I just didn’t know when I was going to get to it.  Then, on Wednesday and Thursday, I made my way back into asthma world through memory bringing it out on paper, so by Saturday I had what conventional medicine would likely label a chest infection. I was sick. I stopped writing. My throat was sore and my voice thick. I stopped recording meditations. It was not lost on me that according to the wisdom of the Chakra system, the throat is governed by communication and will. The whole purpose of my trip here is communication and expression.
Fascinating, isn’t it?

It is now Wednesday. It’s over. The asthma is back in the past where it belongs.
Perfect timing! Why? Because I read a tiny article yesterday that said that today, August 26th, 2015, is astrologically the best day to “spend tomorrow making a “passionate effort toward a great goal.” So! My chest is clear, my throat is open and I am setting my computer aside to record some meditations.

What is your body telling you about your beliefs?

What passionate effort toward a great goal are you going to make today?

Tomorrow, I leave Vancouver with so much love and gratitude to my friends, Julie & Scott and the whole family, for so graciously supporting the toddler stage of my project and nurturing me well again with so much loving kindness, and for asthma for reminding me how good it feels to be oh-so well!

I wish this kind of love and support and gratitude to you also. If it’s not yet reflected outside, your work is to nurture it inside.

Peace & Joy!

Andrea


To identify and shift limiting beliefs, consider a one-on-one session. Sessions can be in-person if you are local to New Jersey, or via Skype if you are elsewhere. You may also wish to consider learning a natural healing art such as Reiki as a method of self-care. In the second level (degree) of Reiki, breakthrough limiting beliefs to clear the environment for creation and manifestation.
Email Andrea at info@andreagrace.com, or call: 908-271-6670 x 1. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.

money is a game
I asked my housemate what I should write about today, and he said, “money”. He said, “I think a lot of people deal with money stress.”

Fair enough. So that’s what I’m going to do in this post. I’m going to talk about money and how to de-stress :).

I’ve noticed that many people do not like talking about money. We can talk about past physical and emotional pains, present ails and future concerns but when it comes to money, there can be feelings of insecurity and sometimes even shame. It is important then to not hide from our attitudes about money but get familiar with them instead.

The personality, yours included, was born with a sense that something is missing.
You can find this in yourself by asking, “what would I like more of in this life?” You may say, “more love”, “more peace”, “more openness”, “more freedom”, “more courage”, or “more wisdom”. Or, you might come up with something like, “more time” and inevitably some of you will come up with, “more money” -especially now that I’ve already brought it up!

But let’s look.
In order for this longing for more to exist, there has to be a belief already in place; the, “not enough belief.”

To want more love, you must be believing that you don’t have enough love.
To want more peace, you must be believing that you don’t have enough peace.
To want more openness, you must be believing that you are not open enough.
To want more freedom, you must be believing that you are not free.
To want more courage, you must be believing that you do not have enough courage.
To want more wisdom, you must be believing you are not wise enough.
To want more time, you must be believing that you do not have enough time.

And so,

to want more money, you must be believing that you do not have enough money.

Ok, before we go on, keep this in the back of your mind:

Something can only exist when the environment is right for it to exist.

Continuing… Believing that you don’t have enough money is very stressful. What happens when you hear yourself say, “I can’t afford it. I don’t have enough money.” Your heart closes, chaos erupts in the mind and in the emotions, you feel trapped, you feel scared, you feel dumb for being in this situation in the first place.

It hurts.
It is stressful.

I was with a client the other day. Since we have been working together she has been “going through” a “terrible” divorce that was costing more money than I can fathom. Needless to say, she was angry. During the session, we connected with her Higher Self who gently gave us these reminders:

  1. Money is energy and so it behaves like energy. The nature of it is to come and go. When we hold onto it in reality or in our minds it becomes stagnant. When energy becomes stagnant it accumulates. This may seem at the surface a good thing -we want money to accumulate in our bank accounts but we also want it to flow in and out. Flowing out (sometimes against our will) can offer the opportunity of a clearing out, a downsizing, a simplifying, which is ultimately stress-reducing. After all, we are all terminal and we do not take our cash and assets with us when the story of our life ends. When money flows out, there is room for more to come in. When energy stagnates in the body, it creates dis-ease. Money is governed by the root energy center and so when there is disharmony in money attitudes, the lower back can be affected.
  2. To have faith and trust that you have what you need. My client’s higher self really wanted her to know that everything is ok asking her to have faith and trust. The image I saw in my mind was of a monopoly board. I was reminded of playing monopoly as a kid. How it felt when on the throw of a dice I landed on a property that wasn’t mine and had to pay, and the excitement when someone landed on what I owned and had to pay -especially if there were hotels on it! I enjoyed the analogy. It’s so real when you are playing -you are so invested, but then when the game is over, you remember that it was just a game. You win some. You lose some. And often you don’t have much control over either.  Isn’t life really just a game too?

It takes energy to feed the, “I don’t have enough money” belief. Energy that could be better spent on paying attention to what you DO have. Energy that could be better spent nurturing ideas and taking action on projects that are creative and fun and contribute to the beauty, happiness and well-being of our planet, it’s plants, animals and people.

So to the, “I don’t have enough money” belief, say, “Thank you for sharing. Here is what I have enough of:

There is a ground that supports me.
Air that holds me.
A  body that breathes whether I ask it to or not.
A heart that beats whether I give it permission to or not.
I have people who love me.
I have food and water if I need it.”

Let the heart soften.
Let the breath deepen.
Listen to your precious heart beating.
Be grateful for the people who love you.
Be safe knowing that you have what you need.

In reality, don’t you have everything you need? Right now in this moment? You can’t have much more. You don’t need two chairs to sit on, three floors to stand on, four roofs over your head, do you? If you look, you may find that you actually have more than what you need: A lamp you are not using, books you are not reading, food you are not eating, water you are not drinking…

If that’s true, in this moment, in reality, could it be also true that actually you have MORE money than what you need right now? I mean, as you read this, you’re not buying anything, are you? You aren’t handing cash over to someone, are you? I can’t know. I’m not there with you, but I’m guessing not.

So that’s fun.
You have enough of what you need actually.
For right now, anyway.
And this thought, “I have enough of what I need,” feels way more pleasant than, “I don’t have enough money”, doesn’t it?

Don’t take my word for it, try it out. Fill in the blank:
Believing the thought, “I have enough of what I need”, feels….
Believing the thought, “I don’t have enough money”, feels…

So because what is here in your reality can only be here because the conditions are right for them to be here, if you want your reality to change (more money, more fun, more freedom, more love etc), the environment needs to change. You have the power to nurture your mental environment. The next time you hear yourself say, “I don’t have enough money”, or “I can’t afford it,” remember what is more true, “I have enough of what I need.” Stay here in open allowing, grace and gratitude so you can use your energy in creative, fun and loving ways.

Peace & Joy!

Andrea


To break through concepts such as, “I don’t have enough money”, consider a one-on-one session.
Sessions can be in-person if you are local to New Jersey, USA or via Skype. You may also wish to consider learning Reiki as a method of self-care. In the second level (degree) of Reiki, breakthrough limiting beliefs to clear the environment for creation and manifestation.
Email Andrea at info@andreagrace.com, or call: 908-271-6670 x 1. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.

Representations of Characters from Past Life Sessions
“I feel like I made it up.”

Says almost everyone who experiences a past life after they come out of the experience. To which, I say, “yes, in a way you did.” I then explain how the intuitive part of your mind communicates to you in the same language as your imagination -through images, pictures, color, symbols and sounds including language.

And, I invite you to consider this:

  1. Out of an unlimited amount of experiences and possibilities your subconscious picked this particular story for you to see today and look how brilliantly it related to your questions. Are you telling me that you are that clever?
  2. Isn’t it true that you didn’t know what was going to happen next? That the scene unfolded and all you had to do was describe what you saw or report what felt right? Isn’t it also true that sometimes you were surprised? If you were making it up, why would you be surprised?

In a one-on-one session, you are asked to bring a series of questions you would like answered. In an Experience Past Lives workshop, one or two questions are asked. The past life that is explored is typically a story that helps answer your questions and then when the life is over, we speak to an alternate level of consciousness that has a “higher” perspective.

In a one-on-one session, the client saw a life as a pubescent indigenous girl who had been left by her tribe. She was very alone and felt abandoned. When we asked the alternate level of consciousness for the reason why she was shown that life, it was revealed that because she had not known this level of hopelessness and solitude in this lifetime, she needed to experience this because she lacked compassion for her husband who was sent to boarding school at a very young age. When before the session she would be irritated by his neediness, the life helped her have empathy.

Sometimes, the client argues with the suggestions and advice their “higher self” offered during the session while the client was in a relaxed, focused state.

Advice can include diet changes, instructions for a meditation practice,  a change in attitude and/or behavior to help with a relationship. Sometimes, these suggestions are met with shock. Tom‘s Higher self told him during one session to stop eating bread to help him lose some of the weight he had put on. Tom was shocked, “Stop eating bread?! I’m Italian. I love bread!”

Please take a moment to consider what this is like from my point-of-view.

There I am at the beginning of the session listening intently as the client shares with me her questions. Questions that are often buoyed by some level of pain or stress, rendering these questions problems she wants resolved. Then, after we explore a life, I enjoy an enlightening dialogue with the “higher self” who matter-of-factly offers a new perspective, advice and suggestions to each question. Finally, after bringing the client back to everyday level of consciousness, that is, the perspective of the personality, we review. Incredibly, more often than not, the person argues with what they just said. So again, join me at where I sit. I am watching the same face, listening to the same voice, sitting in front of the same body arguing with themselves.

What we are exploring are the many levels of consciousness who each have their point-of-view. The personality who has the questions/problems does not have the same point-of-view as the level of consciousness that answers and who has the solutions. The good news is that you already have the answers. Using Quantum Healing Hypnosis to access past life memory is just one way to help you listen to those answers even if they are not the answers you wanted to hear.

Click here to listen to Quantum Healing Hypnosis sessions including Andrea’s own session with her teacher, Dolores Cannon.

The “Explore Your Past Lives” workshop is currently being at The Elila Center for Natural Healing in Berkeley Heights and have taught in Australia and in Europe as well. Look on my calendar for the upcoming class dates and locations. If you are considering a one-on-one session, you can email me at info@andreagrace.com, or call the Elila Center: 908-271-6670. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.