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Dear You,

First, I want to thank you for your grace and gusto, for your being and your sharing, for your wisdom and your natural grace, for being the exact you that you came here to be for me and for all of us, including you.

Here’s the one thing you need to know…

It is not our job to say the right thing or do the right thing, or be appropriate, or nice or attentive. It’s not our job to make you feel ok, happy, safe, loved, wanted, validated, enough.

Our job is to be what we are.

Just as it’s your job to be what you are.

What we are may sometimes say the opposite to what you expect, not return a phone call or a text, walk away when you are wanting a hug, look away when you want eye contact, listen to our own thoughts instead of yours.

Your job is to not use us to get love, approval, attention, appreciation or acknowledgement. Your job is to practice letting go of your expectations on how we should be, and to free us from the “Making You Happy” job.

When you look to us to do the right thing so you can be ok, you gather all your power and hand it to us.

But we don’t want it.

We never asked you for this power, so don’t act like we are to blame when we don’t live up to your expectations.  And don’t judge us for not being what you want. We don’t want to be responsible for your happiness, security, and well-being. We’re too busy surfing our own expansion and contraction to take on yours as well. Impossible to do anyhow -we can’t surf two waters on two surf boards.

Do you know why you do this? Do you know why you keep trying to give us the keys to your happiness? You do this to avoid being accountable and taking responsibility for the state of your heart and the life you have created for yourself. You do this to avoid growing yourself up.

We are your mirrors, not your saviors.
We are your messengers, not your white-horse riding knight.

The good news is that what you want us to be is actually your soul telling YOU who to be for you (and for us). When you say, in your mind or out aloud, “I need you to…”, or, “I want you to…”, or, “You should…” that is your own soul speaking for your own ears to hear. Your soul is using us as a mirror to reflect back what it wants you to live. It uses us so you can hear yourself. You want me to love you? You love you, first. You need me to be attentive, you be attentive to you, and even to me -I may be needing your attention in that moment.

Do you see how firing us from the “make me happy” job would be you doing that job instead? After all, you actually know what makes you happy and gives you peace of mind. Do you see how being 100% accountable for the state of your heart keeps the power in your own hands?

So! Your job this year is to channel your innate, divinely inspired power into fun and creative ways that keeps your happiness-o-meter high. Take the guitar lessons you have been wanting to take, volunteer at a local people or animal shelter, learn about the stock market, start a Meet Up group, plan a trip to the place on your bucket list, start learning another language…

For our sake, please, commit this year to being your own best lover, mother, father, sister, brother, partner, friend. Hold your own hand (you have two) and tell you that you are ok, that you are safe. Look into your own eyes and tell you that you are loved and wanted. Be still in your own heart and know that Life is a gift to be shared, not a burden to be handed over.

Make yourself happy so we can surf the waves of life together.

Happy and free.

Loving you into 2017 with a whole heart,

All of us

Happiness is actually an art of living, which is in us

To identify and shift limiting beliefs, consider a one-on-one session. Sessions can be in-person if you are local to New Jersey, USA, or via Skype if you are elsewhere. You may also wish to consider learning a natural healing art such as Reiki as a method of self-care. In the second level (degree) of Reiki, breakthrough limiting beliefs to clear the environment for creation and manifestation.
Email Andrea at info@andreagrace.com, or call: 908-271-6670 x 1. You may need to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours unless I am traveling.

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